If you want to try phone sex but wonder if your partner would be game, you’re not alone. Since women make up more than half of the population, there’s no way to lump them into a category that fully loves or loathes anything. Everyone has different interests, tastes, and dislikes. Yet, many people who hate phone sex developed strong negative feelings about it due to a poor experience. Consequently, it stands to reason that those who love phone sex have had great experiences with it. Below are some ideas on what to do—and not to do—during phone sex so that your partner has the best shot at loving it.
- They Will Hate It If They Have to Do All the Work
Have you ever gone to a gift exchange where you put together a considerate, time-consuming present for someone, and they got you a cheap, thoughtless trinket? This is how it feels when she makes an effort to put on nice lingerie, do her hair and makeup, find good lighting, strike the perfect pose, and send you a pic, and what she receives in return is a blurry pic that looks like it was lit in a gas station bathroom. Whether or not you’re exchanging pictures, it’s vital to both put forth an effort.
During phone sex, try to be as engaged as possible. Don’t lie back and ask her to create a scenario or respond with one-word answers. Instead, get involved and be an active participant. Using your imagination can be a great way to help get her engine revving.
Further, now is not the time to be quiet. Some women are aurally oriented, and hearing your enjoyment of the call can add to their enjoyment of the call. Even if you’re the strong, silent type, phone sex is the perfect time to come out of your shell.
- They Will Have a Better Shot at Enjoying It If You Are Focused
A little thought goes a long way. It might seem like a good idea to call her when you’re on the road and bored, but you won’t be able to focus all your attention on her. Further, you might go through spots with poor cell reception, and an intermittent sexy conversation can turn awkward pretty quickly. So, make sure you’re not double-tasking. Find some time when you can focus completely on her.
- They Will Love It If You Check in on Them
Even if your partner is thrilled to try phone sex, no one is a mind reader. If you’re going too fast or slow, getting a bit wild or rough (yes—even phone sex can turn rough), you need to know how they’re feeling. Better yet, asking for consent during phone sex is easy. But you’re asking for more than permission—you want to make sure she’s having as good of a time as you are. Feel free to say, “do you like that,” “are you ready for this,” “how badly do you want it,” or “do you want me to keep going,” as much as feels right.
- They Will Love a Little Variety
There are only so many synonyms for the words “hard” and “wet.” Instead of asking her to picture your arousal, consider inviting her into your imagination. Fantasizing together can breed a lot more creativity and help the conversation flow smoothly, since there’s more to talk about than physical descriptions. If you’re in a relationship, she probably already has a good idea of what you look like naked. Inviting her along for your fantasy, or joining her in hers, is a lot more fun.
- Finding the Right One Makes It Easy
If your partner isn’t interested in phone sex, there’s not a lot you can do to change her mind. However, you can always find people to have phone sex with online. But before you get started, ensure that the site you choose respects your privacy and checks the ages of everyone involved. Your phone sex enjoyment will reach its potential only if you’re sure you are in a safe, private environment.
