It’s not easy finding somebody to have fun with, without one person getting attached to the other. In situations where one person does get attached (and the attachment isn’t mutual) feelings are liable to get hurt. Hurting another person’s feelings is never nice, which is why it is important to only ever have casual fun with somebody who is as equally disinterested in a proper relationship or commitment as you are.
If you are looking to have fun without getting attached, then this post will tell you everything you need to know:
Hook-up Sites
If you’re looking for people to have casual sex with, then hookup sites are the best place to look. There are literally tens of thousands of ongoing casual hook-ups taking place right now, thanks to these sites. The best way to find a site to use is to use a guide site offering expertly curated lists. Also, read a site’s reviews before you use it, just so you can be sure it is genuine. Some sites are unfortunately not to be trusted and are scams. Finally, ensure the site that you have chosen is active. There’s no point in signing up for an inactive site.
Communicate Interests
When you do meet somebody who’s interested in a casual relationship, make sure you communicate your interests or desires to them from the very beginning. If you only want sex, then say that. Not clarifying what you are looking for can complicate matters. Similarly, make sure the person you have chosen to start a casual relationship with communicates their interests, too. When you are both on the same page, it’ll be a lot easier to keep things running smoothly.
Set Boundaries
From the very outset, set boundaries. Make sure that you tell the person you are casually seeing what is acceptable and what isn’t. It’s very common for individuals involved in casual relationships to restrict messaging and communication. Stopping your date from messaging you after a certain time will help to reinforce the fact that you are not in a proper relationship with each other. You may even want to go as far as to tell them never to contact you unless it’s about meeting up for sex. Avoiding casual conversation will help to prevent you from getting attached to one another.
See Others
When you are casually dating, you can see more than one person. However, for everyone’s safety, make sure that you wear protection when you are having sex, and tell the people you are seeing that you are seeing others. If possible, ask the people you see to present a certificate proving they are clean and have no STDs. If you pick up an STD from one person, then you could transmit it to all of the people that you are having sex. Spreading STDs around won’t go down very well with the people you’re casually seeing.
Social Media
Under no circumstances should you share information about your casual relationships on social media. Telling other people about your dates or sharing pictures together can complicate matters. To be honest, you shouldn’t even follow your dates (or allow them to follow you) on social media. Social media is a place for friends, family, and serious partners. Having casual sex partners on there can be awkward, not to mention can help them to find out more than you want them to about you. Restrict your social media page and block your casual partners if they ever attempt to follow you on it.
Avoid Connections
When looking for people to have casual sex with, make sure that you avoid people with whom you have mutual connections. Having mutual connections with a person can complicate things when it comes to starting and maintaining a casual relationship. If they have friends in common, then they could potentially tell them that you are seeing each other. Also, if you decide not to see each other anymore but run in the same social circles, then it could make maintaining your friendships very difficult to manage. The last person you want to see when you’re going out and meeting friends is a casual sex partner you have dumped.
Minimal Conversation
Finally, try to keep conversation to a minimum. Avoid talking to the person you are seeing about yourself, your life, and your interests. Keep it purely casual. If you find somebody who’s equally interested in a purely sexual relationship, then they will no doubt want to avoid conversation too.
Casual relationships are becoming a lot more common. They are a great way to have fun, without dealing with all of the trouble that comes along with serious commitments and relationships. Make sure anyone you choose to date knows what you want, and shares your desires, otherwise things could get complicated.
